Comments on: The Hands & Voices Communicator – Spring 2009 – "Darth Vader Takes a Holiday"

By: James Cochran

James Cochran — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 15:31:11 +0000

What a great essay! I also am amazed at what little regard society gives to fathers in the raising of their children especially when dads have as much impact on their kids as moms do whether they are present or not. I have never been afraid to take my kids for a offspring/daddy day out even when they were in diapers and all their meals came in liquid form. Seems that the snorted comments tend to come from older men; father’s from the previous generation (and older women too). I think the origin is that they had a different idea/practice on fathering. I once met a man who stated that he didn’t even touch his children until they were 10. Anyway, I don’t see myself as a Darth Vader, but more of a Han Solo, only without the dashing good looks, air of rogue mystery, super hair side kick (unless you count the cat), and hot rod space ship. Other than that, we’re practically the same person.

By: Paula Rosenthal

Paula Rosenthal — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 22:22:14 +0000

The deaf and hard of hearing community recognizes that parents are essential to the upbringing and success of their children. I think this is why you feel such acceptance within that group of professionals and families. What a lovely tribute to fatherhood and the impact you can make on your child. Beautiful.

By: Ron S. Doyle

Ron S. Doyle — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 15:00:10 +0000

Thank you for all the kind words!

By: Rachel W.

Rachel W. — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 14:24:56 +0000

Late to this party Ron, but it takes a deft voice and talent to present a heavy topic with such a light voice. I was raised by a very traditional mother and gender blind father who is still perplexed that society seems determined to cram me into a pink shaped box. I’m guessing that your daughters will surprise you with some of their long term choices. That said, who wouldn’t cry if refused a pair of aviator sunglasses? I’m misting up already

By: Lydia Dishman

Lydia Dishman — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 19:52:26 +0000

Ron:
This is a wonderful essay, and a beautiful expression of your love (and concern) for your daughter. My husband has often pointed out the permanent bad place dads are relegated to in books and the media, and I think that more voices like yours are necessary to turn this unfortunate tide.

I wish I could say not to worry about the shopping thing, but as the mother of one teen girl and one tween girl, all I can say is, “hang on to that credit card, and maybe get a dgital loop of yourself signing – NO.”

By: Janene

Janene — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 02:51:41 +0000

That was a terrific essay. My hubby is very hands-on/involved with the kids. Many of the dad friends poke fun sometimes and say he’s making them look bad, taking them to b-day parties, dance class, bowling, reading, playing, shopping, etc.

What a wonderful dad you are–and writer

By: katie

katie — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 21:37:34 +0000

Great article. I can identify as one who isn’t a mother or married but is expected to be. Society loves to force us into little holes, doesn’t it? I’m glad you have a group that understands….and good luck with that whole adolescence thing. I think you might need it.